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If you are like most people, then you’ve probably experience how difficult it can be at times to get your mind to do what you want. While your mind is wonderful at responding to objective tasks such as raising your arm, a lot of people feel like it is very hard to get their mind to relax or go to sleep. Most people solve this problem by meditation. Overtime, meditation can help train the mind the respond better to the needs of the body. A lesser known solution to your problems is called brainwave entrainment. So, what is brainwave entrainment?

Brainwave Entrainment – What It Is, And What It Can Do For You

Brainwave entrainment is a way of synchronizing the brainwaves with external stimuli. An external stimulus is anything that causes your brainwaves to react. In most cases, brainwave entrainment is induced through aural stimuli. Aural stimuli are those stimuli that can be heard. There are a lot of soundtracks available specifically for brainwave entrainment.

A lot of people enjoy brainwave entrainment because it helps them better at meditating. Brainwave entrainment can teach you a lot of things, such as how to focus better. As you know, one of the main goals of meditation is being able to focus on one thing at a time. If you are having trouble with that concept, brainwave entrainment can help make you more successful at it. The reason that brainwave entrainment is able to help you focus better is because it ability to interact and synchronizewith your brainwaves. Search for a description at Wikipedia on how it works.


I’ve been a fan of meditation music ever since I stumbled upon it years ago to aid my work in the neurolinguistics department at the University of Denver

People also use brainwave entrainment to relax. Brainwave entrainment can provide the same kind of restorative effects as deep sleep. If you did not get a lot of sleep, it is a good idea to use brainwave entrainment after your meditation session in the morning. Thirty minutes of brainwave entrainment can do wonders for your energy levels. I used to have bad afternoon slumps until I tried listening to brainwave sync programs.

If you think that brainwave entrainment is something you’d like to try out, you should buy a CD. There are many music stores that have a whole section dedicated to brainwave entrainment. It is also important to remember that high quality headphones make a big difference in the effectiveness of the treatment. If you have good headphones, you will have much more drastic results. You can get a good pair of headphones for one to two hundred dollars. Even though this is a lot of money, you need to think of it as an investment. If you’re always tired, think of it as a way to be more energetic. If you have trouble focusing on one thing at a time, think of it as a way to simplify your life and get rid of the stress. A pair of good headphones will last forever and financing is almost always available.

Now that you know more about brainwave entrainment and what it can do for you, you should be able to determine whether or not it will help your situation. For many people that can’t seem to control how their brain reacts, brainwave entrainment can make a huge difference.

I personally attest to the effectiveness of this technology, and it has had a positive impact on my life so far. If you have experience using brainwave entrainment in your life, then share your experience!


-Joseph Cohen (“The Swinger”)

PS: If you don’t mind reading lengthy academic papers on this technology and why it works so well, then click here.

04-11-Father-daughter-portraitThere comes a time in every long term dating relationship when you have to go out and meet the parents. And more often than not, especially when you’ve been together for quite some time, people are going to expect a proposal and/or a wedding soon after. In a way, people see this ‘meet the parents’ stint as an informal and subtle way of telling them that everything about you and the relationship is serious.
But however serious your relationship is, or how much ready you are to meet the parents, and just whatever reason you have for meeting them finally, there is one thing that you can’t possibly change: you have to impress her parents.

As a man, though, there is an unspoken sometimes unseen competition between you and her Dad. And that’s what makes him more difficult to impress. So before you go on your planned getaway with her family next weekend, you had better be armed and ready with ideas on how to impress her dad and win him over.

Here are 5 fool-proof ways to impress her:

  1. Bring him his favorite booze. Unless he’s trying to live clean, more likely than not he has a go-to booze. And the only way to find that out is to ask your girlfriend. And if, surprisingly, she does not know the answer, pressure her into asking her mother. If her mother learns that you are actually making an effort to make a good impression on her husband, and that you are somehow going out of your way to make him happy. Win the mom, win level 1. If he is actually living clean and staying off of alcohol for whatever reason, bring him his favorite dessert (yes, even if you have to drive for hours to get it).
  2. Don’t be arrogant. This is where most men fail. They want to seem and sound and feel confident to their girlfriends’ dads that they exaggerate on the confidence level and come off as arrogant. And that’s what draws the last straw for them – potential fathers-in-law hate arrogant men for their daughters so be very careful. Be that humble, meek guy who talks who is just so packed with potential awe-inspiring qualities that will blow him away.
  3. Listen to his stories. Always listen to his stories, show interest and believe them. Never mind if he told you he killed seven reindeers on his last hunting trip or that he had 45 girlfriends before settling down with your girlfriend’s mom. Your first encounter is not the time to argue with him or compete with him. Just. Not.
  4. Show him something you’re good at. If you get the chance, show him your talents. Play the piano for him, cook him your signature steak, show him your mechanic or technician skills and show him that you can run a household like a man and that his daughter won’t have anything to worry about should you guys get married.

Help his wife. No man could resist his wife, Click here for the recommended guide on talking to girls. And so if the future mum-in-law puts in a good word or two for you for your awesome steaks, or for fixing that leak in the kitchen, or for being generally a nice young lad, chances are he’s going to take her words for it. After all, his wife has great taste and he’s proof of it!

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Sooo, blogger huh? The most awesome thing that the internet has done, apart from allow us to enjoy the heaven-sent power of them search engines, is to create opportunities for everyone to become who they’ve always wanted to be. Take Youtube sensations for example: Michelle Phan was just an ordinary makeup-obsessed girl who loved to make tutorials about make-ups but is now enjoying an awesome cult following and product endorsements; PSY became a world sensation from being just South Korea’s favorite funny singer; and how could we forget to include Justin Beiber? Justin Timberlake found him on Youtube and now he’s one of today’s biggest names in pop culture. The internet has the same effect for bloggers. The blogosphere has opened an entire world of opportunities for everyone – from fashionistas to tech savvy dudes to sports addicts to fetishists. Anyone can be someone on the internet with a simple blog page! You can post about anything you want and make a name for yourself in it if you play your internet cards right.

Because there’s hardly any censoring done on the internet, it’s so easy to write just about anything on it. And I mean just about anything. Unfortunately, some bloggers are using this almost infinite freedom of the internet to write bad stuff. Others, they just write stupid stuff – not that it’s any better though. And for many male bloggers, they are guilty of making posts that turn women off. Wanna find out what they are?

Male bloggers do that turn women off

But wait, I go to this website for dating advice (it’s good) you may want to see it for additional help. And now!  Here are 5 things male bloggers do that turn women off:

  1. Make sexist remarks. This is bad anywhere else, just so we make that clear. But blogging about it makes it more ‘official’ and more memorable – the internet has as great memory you know. So if you’ve made a post about how women should stay more often in the kitchen to make sandwiches for the men, or that women will never be good in electronics, or you made a nasty sexually laced remark on a woman in your post, trust me you’ll never get any likes or visits from women anytime soon – on your page and in real life both!
  2. Post unflattering photos of yourself. This is only forgivable, I think, if you are a comic blogger and your blog is intended to be funny and make fun of yourself. Otherwise, it will just turn women off, especially if it comes with a self-deprecating man-drama post or caption.
  3. Insult rather than critique someone or something on your blog. Whether you’re a movie buff or a foodie running a blog of the same theme, you have to know that there’s a world of difference between classy critiquing and plain, uneducated insulting masking itself as a blog. A criticism, especially as a supposed serious and pro blog, should not use deprecating words, let alone foul ones. So careful about your so-called ‘reviews’.
  4. Posting offensive stuff and talking about it in an offensive manner. So some celebrity and his girlfriend are on hot seat now after their sex video leak. Or that some two equally infamous celebrities were caught in a brawl. While that and your blog status sort of allows you to voice out your opinion on the matter, it does not give you any right to talk about the issue in a bad, insulting and degrading manner or use violent words for it. That’s just gross and low.
  5. Getting in a word fight with your commenters. If you’ve got quite a following on your blog and you end up with a bad commenter (aka the kind that insults you and starts a word war for what you posted about), it can be easy to let hell break loose and just get into a wicked unintelligent banter and exchange of insults with that commenter. But is that an intelligent move? Does that make your other readers respect you? Always, always practice discretion especially in dealing with comments!

Jealousy is not only a normal part of any relationship; this girl believes it is actually essential. After all, there is so much commitment and belongingness to feel when your partner just does not feel good about the idea of sharing you or losing you to someone else. But there is a fine line that divides normal, healthy jealousy and the possessive, choking, unhealthy, relationship-fatal kind. Just follow these simple rules to obey for friends with benefits.

The former, apparently, is the kind of occasional, oftentimes cute kind of jealousy that makes your girlfriend want to pamper you more, makes her feel flattered about the fact that you don’t want to share her with anyone else, and the kind that can only come from mostly valid reasons. The other one, on the other hand, is just baseless, illogical, exaggerated and maybe even violent type of jealousy – exactly the ones that make for perfect ingredients for a breakup.

Signs that you’re a possessive

Wanna find out if you’re normal jealous or the exaggerated one? Read on for signs that you’re a possessive boyfriend:


  1. You freak out over any other human being who tried to talk to her, ask her to hangout, or just get near her. Man you have a serious problem. Okay, so there is a little bit of normalcy over getting jealous at boys who ask her out, but to freak out about her BFF’s, verify with her mom if indeed it was her who asked your girlfriend out, or just plainly go all out on holding her in public when some sales guy talks to her in some shop are so not normal and are the epitome of possessive.
  2. If you never want her to go out without you.  While being called ‘inseparable’ as a couple can be cute, it can also be very disconcerting if you force your way out of being in her every itinerary, and that you don’t really care about what her thoughts and feels about having you around. That’s really a great way of showing her that you want to own her. Uh-huh.
  3. You call her at least once every 30 minutes. This is sweet but only after so long. But to have to do it even after several months of dating, checking up on her worse than your mom did on you at your first summer camp is just not fun at all. It makes her feel like a kid and makes you the tyrant.
  4. If you have to know everything. This is one of the biggest indicators of being a possessive control-freak boyfriend. It can only mean that you cannot bear the thought of mystery because your mind goes on auto-pilot and takes you to doom scenario land. And so you have to resort to having to know everything about her including every single thing that goes on during her bathroom break.
  5. You brand her as ‘yours’ in every possible way. Whether it’s making her wear a non-wedding ring, wear a locket that has your picture in it, changing her phone background into your photo, or go as far as forcing her to have your face tattooed on her arm, you just want the world to know that she’s taken (by you, nonetheless) so boys will stay away from her.

Not enough? Then read more tips here>>>

If you answered yes to any of these, then I hate to tell you that you are a certified, over-the-top possessive boyfriend. And you’d have to check with your girlfriend how she feels about you right now.

The Common Denominator

November 25, 2013 — Leave a comment

Have you been jumping from one relationship to another?

Is your dating life nothing more than a few good dates and the women either disappear or just end up with someone else, and you are left alone in your miserable single life?

Have you been recycling exes after another, just to keep the bed warm or at least just to stand next to you in social functions?

Do you feel like you’ve been cursed into solitude for the rest of your life? How do you break this seeming ‘curse’ to your love life? How do you break your string of bad relationships?

Tips for better relationship

Here are some of tips to improve your dating life and get better chances at finding a more lasting relationship:

•    Change your social circle. Maybe you’ve been looking for women in the wrong places. Constantly picking up women in bars and clubs, or hanging out in strip clubs, or dating women who are looking only for one-night stands won’t yield a lasting relationship. You’re lucky if anything from these types of women go for more than five dates, but really, there’s hardly anything significant to expect. So change your social circle, find a different place to meet women, go for places where conversations are allowed and personalities – not looks – shine.
•    Change the way you approach women. Maybe you seem too fast, too aggressive, or too shallow. Maybe you need to let the good side of your personality shine through in the way you approach women. If you’re funny, then be funny! If you’re geeky, give her a lesson or two about the Internet or Star Wars. What truly matters about getting a lasting, significant relationship in its early stages is that you give her something to look forward to about you. Give her a reason to make her listen to you.440262_14679034
•    Break your bad habits. If you’re a notorious player, I don’t see a reason why you should be in a lasting relationship. If you have a habit of beating your girlfriends, or flirting around casually or whatever other bad relationships you possess, not getting a good relationship is practically normal and not surprising at all. So check yourself inwardly – have you been doing things that are warding off the great women from your life?
•    Stay single for a bit longer, without making any good and conscious effort to find someone to date. It might be a little difficult to stay single after all the efforts you’ve made on trying to get in a relationship. But the truth is, you might not really need it. Or at least not really need it just r at least not really need it just yet. So why not use this time to actually get to know yourself better, enjoy the single life more, and maybe prepare yourself better emotionally for your future relationship. Call this stage your ‘relationship purging’.

And here’s a big tip: how to get her phone number (good tips here at

There is no curse, probably just a series of bad choices and bad habits. Change some of these things just to see how much better it changes your chances in the dating arena. Good luck!

mazoh3Women can be very annoyingly stubborn. I blame it partly on our innate motherly hormones, it makes us somehow want to take control of everything and treat everyone else like our children. Trust me, I know this subject too well (my boyfriend asks me to listen to what he has to say at least three times a day, and calls me stubborn about twice as much).

So how do you make your woman listen to you? How do you invoke the wifely gene in her, instead of the maternal instinct? Is there a way for you to actually make your woman see your credibility?

Make her listen to you

Actually, and quite surprisingly, yes. Here are some tips:

  • Be more decisive. If you ask her to decide on things 9 out of 10 times, chances are, she won’t believe you in that one too few times that you want to make the decision. You’ve given her most of the deciding power in the relationship; logically, you’ve lost some of yours in that situation. So man up and quit the ‘whatever you want darling’ thing if you still want her to believe that you’ve got things under control. She might Gives You the Cold Shoulder then.
  • Be more assertive about what you want and what you don’t want but don’t forget where the borders between assertion and disrespect. Assertion is seen on many levels; when you’re certain about what you want, when your voice says that you are actually certain about what you want (uhm, uhm, uhm – that’s not really certain), and when you stand by what you want. And your girl has got to see exactly this: that her boyfriend is strong physically and mentally and in every other aspect!ID-1004899_w400 Girl Listens With Hand At Ear
  • Stop calling her stubborn. (Yes, and a note to my very own man, too). Calling her stubborn, arguing with her about why she should and shouldn’t follow you, and making a fight out of it is useless. Don’t call her names, it will make her want to defy you even more. (PS: maybe you can try a little reverse psychology on her instead?) Here’s a list of Things You Should Not Say To Your Woman.
  • Let your actions speak louder than your words. So you argued about whether or not canola is a better and healthier oil than extra virgin olive. Or that opening the can with a can opener is more efficient than using a knife – blah blah blah. In all these arguments, always, always make sure that your actions are even more assertive than your words. In the wise words of the man who taught me to write, “don’t just tell ‘em, show ‘em!” Makes sense doesn’t it? Or says these good and funny pickup lines you must know to her.
  • Don’t raise your voice. The calmer you are, the more impact your words have. All the best speakers in the history of public speaking know that there is more to effective speaking than the loudness of your voice. Sometimes, even your silence can relay more message than your actual words. So whenever you have to talk with your girlfriend about anything – especially anything that you know will spark argument and disobedience on her part – keep it low. That can make all the difference.

When you are going on dates, you are bound to get questions about yourself, your thoughts on certain topics or some events in your life. But some questions are just going too far and are really inappropriate. Questions like these can ruin the whole date and may cause it to end prematurely, because really, who wants to be interrogated with questions like these:
1. How long did your last relationship last, and why did it end?

No one loves talking about past relationships, especially if they ended on bad terms. It will only cause bad memories rise up again, this is a question you might not even ask when you are in a relationship. But why did it end, she ask? Ermm I don’t know, maybe it was just not working out, maybe she was a totally she-devil, or the wrong kind of dominatrix, or she farts too much, or maybe she outright cheated on you. It is totally inappropriate and it is none of her concern; hit the button, because you don’t want a girl that begins asking questions like these. Next!

2. Did you ever cheat on someone?

No matter the answer, she will most likely not believe you. Since you just met each other, you both don’t know each other enough to tell when the other is telling the truth or not . For all you could know she could be a serial killer, and for all she knows you could be a secret agent. The point is: it is none of her business; you are just going out on a date and are still getting to know each other. Leave out answering this question for when you are getting serious.

3. How many kids do you want?

Does it matter now? You are dating, not planning an entire clan! These questions scares all of men in the beginning, because a woman that is thinking of having kids this early (you are hardly officially boyfriend and girlfriend) is bound up to try and get pregnant, with or without your permission. This girl will lead to only trouble and child support; and she’s likely clingy!

4. When do you want kids?

Sorry missy, I gotta go, I just received an important call and em…“ When she pops this question on the first few, pre-official dates, you had better plan an escape route, and plan it FAST! This question is worse than the previous one, because 9 out of 10 times, she wants it sooner than you – way sooner. Questions about kids are way too personal for dates, and questions about having them during dates are the biggest no-no’s in dating history.

5. How much do you earn?

Really? Is she that impatient or can she really not hide that she is just in for the money? Girls that go for the money never stay when you are running low on budget, and they will not contribute nearly enough or as much as you would like they to contribute. They will pretend to love you as long as you shower them with gifts, jewels and cold hard cash. (And besides, it is common courtesy to never ask about how much anyone earns unless she’s family or something.

There are many other questions we guys would never want to hear and should lay off answering; and these are just a little grasp of what some women try to find out about you. But don’t worry, after understanding the right way on how to talk to a girl (a guide from SIBG). There is plenty fish in the sea and many of them will not act like an interrogation officer.


Good day :)

After my last blog post, we are going to discussed today what is the best thing to do when she’s giving you the cold shoulder.

She doesn’t respond to your cuddles. She looks away when you try to kiss her. She hardly texts you back and gives you nothing but single word responses at most, and grunts and other incoherent sounds at the very least. 

angry lady

What are the reasons for her to give you cold shoulder?

There’s no doubt about it she’s giving you the cold shoulder.
A lot of women tend to do this – not saying anything but letting their body language speak to you. It comes from being called “nags” too often; they come to a point where they feel like they’ve said enough and there’s nothing left to say. So they let their thoughts and feelings come out of their bodies.
It may seem like a breather and better option than the nagging part, but every man knows that the cold shoulder is so much harder to deal with and it could be much, much serious.
What do you do when she gives you the cold shoulder? How do you get her to talk to you about what’s bothering her? How do you not make things worse (this is the hardest part but try to read this Sonic Seduction blog article)?

What is the best thing to do

Here are some tips:

  • Before saying anything, try to figure out on your own why she’s mad at you. Is it the time of the month? If it is, consider yourself lucky. If not, keep thinking. Check the calendar. Is today supposed to be a special day? Did you just miss her birthday or your anniversary? Check your memo – were you supposed to go somewhere or do something and totally forgot about it? Go about the last 24 hours and try to recall everything you’ve said and done – in person, in text, on the phone, on email, and possibly every way you could have done/said it – that might have ticked her off.
  • Be a sweet little puppy, not a rabid dog. Do not confront her with accusations when you try to let her speak out on what’s making her angry. Instead, be a sweet little puppy, with sad droopy eyes, all cuddly and sad because she is giving the cold shoulder. It might break her walls and make her speak out and then after that try the ways to be sexy.
  • Don’t push too hard. The thing about girls is that we always need to be ready to do anything. And when we aren’t, there is hardly anything in the world that could make us do things unprepared. SO if she says she’s not ready to talk about it, hold out your patience much longer and wait until she’s ready to speak out. She will when she can. This may be the hardest part – the waiting – but if you want to resolve things like a good lover, you have to endure it.
  • Listen before you react. It would be wise to let her speak all of her thoughts out before speaking yours out. You’d be in a better stance with her if you become the sensitive, sweet guy who listens over the guy who starts a fight. Again, mister, patience is key.

When a woman is giving you the cold shoulder, the very first thing to do is be patient. Don’t counter her anger with anger, and you’ll see how much better things would be. This technique works with practically every other female and not just your ladylove. So the next time your boss is being a total prick at you, try this out and be amazed. *Wink*

Want to know why? See it here by Mayhemmagazine.

When it comes to dating, your 20s and your 30s make up for the most significant formative years. These two decades are the time of trying to experience everything and making life-changing decisions for later in your life.

But what really differs when you’re dating in your 20s and in your 30s? Whether you’re in your 30s and are trying to look back at the past decade, or you are in your 20s and are trying to get a heads up on what to expect in the coming ten years of your dating life, here’s a comparative look at the difference between dating in your 20s and dating in your 30s.

Dating in Your 20s

A woman in her 20s

In your 20s, you try to explore everything related to adulthood. You are getting your first taste of being a grown up and you try to socialize as best and as much as you can. Physically, you tend to accessorize more. Your dating attempts were more careless, experimental, and unthought-of at times. You try to date and bed every girl you meet, and your ego mattered more than anything else. And you make the most out of being independent and in full control of your life.

When you’re dating in your 20s, you look towards excitement and experimenting in relationships. This is the age when you’re most attractive to the so-called cougars too. At this age, the rule on dating is to have fun, fun, fun. And so you look for girls and dates for exactly that same reason.

These are the formative years of your dating and adult life and this is when you find the experiences and the people that make you decide to settle down in marriage or to keep going with the single life.

Dating in Your 30s

Did you know that women feel most beautiful at 32?


A woman in her 30s

Around this time in your life, you find yourself lying low slowly on the wild dates. You realize that going out on clubs every single night to meet girls is not good for your love life and your gall bladder. And you realize that the crowd is becoming younger – so young you don’t understand their language anymore. You ideally would be more focused on your career path in your 30s.

When it comes to meeting women, you may be less appealing to cougars but the younger ladies may seem too young for you that you find it hard to meet halfway. More often than not, women your age are either married or divorced or single with children. This may be a challenge and online dating may be a more lucrative option.

Your attitudes towards women and dating may also have changed at this point, thanks to peer pressure from friends who are getting married and having kids.


Life changes us. We become who we are from everything we experienced and everyone we met. Your dating life in your 20s may not exactly tell how the rest of your dating life will end up. Whatever your age, here are universal tips on being a good flirt with women. Enjoy every experience though; you’re only in your 20s ad 30s for so long! Good luck!

To most men, being the male version of Plain Jane is enough. As long as there is a shirt on his back, some decent clean-looking pants to go with it, comfortable undies underneath that, and some shoes that could get you by for a few more years, he is okay.

Of course you think you are okay, but you might not be good enough to wow a girl.

When it comes to dating, women always love men who try to step up with their game on every possible category. Sure we know how to appreciate the effort, but we do know how to value great results. And this is especially true when it comes to looks. There are ‘manssentials‘ which are the things you NEED, and then there are accessories which you don’t need per se but can be good for you.

We don’t really need you to go out all fancy and dapper a la Rob Kardashian. But it really would not hurt if you made an effort to look great, especially when we are going out on a date.

Accessories and Men


Match your accessories to the occasion. If it is not cold, then don’t wear scarves.

To the Average Joe kinda’ guy, accessories are unnecessary and should be reserved to models and rappers. Most men could do away without anything other than a good ol’ classic looking watch. But there’s more to men’s accessories than just a watch!

Some popular accessories for men include:

  • Bracelets
  • Necklaces
  • Ear studs
  • Scarves
  • Hats and caps
  • Vests
  • Belts
  • Shades
  • Purse, Pouch, Clutch, Bag

As it is with women, the biggest challenge to the non-savvy person when it comes to fashion and accessorizing is to mix and match them. You seriously do not want to look like some guy straight out of a freak show when meeting a girl for a date.

So to make your transition into becoming a more fashionable guy smoother and easier, here are some tips:

  • Keep it at a minimum. SIBG covered this last week. Do not overdo it. If you’re unsure about mixing and matching your accessories, wear at least one or two pieces. Say, shades and a scarf with your trench coat? Or one piece of bracelet at a time to go with your watch?
  • Don’t wear contrasting leather. Do not wear your black leather watch with a brown leather belt on some blue leather shoes. You’re not gunning for the Mr Rainbow look!
  • Decide on what look you want to achieve. Do you want to channel your inner Marshall Mathers? Go for your white sneaks, semi-wide pants and your hoodie. A single ear stud will definitely complete the look. Going for a Ryan Gosling? By all means take out your shiny leather loafers and get all other leather goods to math plus one or two gold or silver bracelets.

If your accessories do not make you comfortable, don’t push it.

  • Match it with the occasion. Who wears their gold necklaces to the beach anyway? If you’re not Mike Tyson, then no – you cannot wear your gold chain necklace to the beach. Wear a buri fedora and some wood bead bracelets instead! Read this if you need more pointers on how to dress for specific occasions.

Keep your comfort in check. If your accessories do not make you comfortable, don’t push it. You’ll never enjoy the night worrying about what your date thinks about your all-football fan ensemble!