Swing Status

Anything new can be extremely exciting. New shoes, new ride, new girl – they can make you giddy and want to take things on a fast pace. Well, everything we have today is fast-paced. You can do ten things at the same time, and get them done in no time too! We at SwingStatus.com understands this…. and that’s why the SwingStatus Method is deliberately slow.

Relationships have not been spared from this ‘instant’ revolution in our generation. Strangers become couples after a few drinks and calls, and other things that were not given the chance to take on its own time. This is especially true when one dates a shy girl.

You could lecture me all you want about ‘YOLO’ and how to seize the chance when it gets to you, but really, some things may just benefit better if it gets to take its own time, at its own pace, to bloom into its full potential.

If you are starting out a relationship with a girl and you really, really want to get it on, here are some notes on the benefits of taking things slow. You might surprise yourself by agreeing to most if not all of them…

SwingStatus Guide To Slow Seduction

• Taking things slow helps you decide on what you truly want with the other person. Before jumping the gun and becoming a couple, go on a few more dates – without sex or physical intimacy – and actually get to know the person. Sex complicates things and gives that false sense of attachment. Give yourself time to know how well you and the other person are going to be like together. Use fractionation hypnosis to get to know her better.
• Give yourself time to measure your level of commitment (and willingness to commit). Give yourself and the girl some justice. Maybe you get too excited but you’re not in it for the long haul. Finding this out on a few dates will save you the shame and burden of breaking up later.
• You are giving yourself and the other person the chance to know each other better, more deeply. Maybe she has quirks that you are not ready and willing to live with? Maybe you are too impatient for her taste? Maybe you don’t agree on certain things and it would be easier to give yourself and the girl room to exit before you both hurt each other emotionally over incompatibility. MSN has got a very useful love compatibility tool which can be found here.
• It lessens the pressure for both of you. So you thought you guys were in love. No, you didn’t talk about marriage and it is far from what you guys are planning in the foreseeable future. You moved in together. You get her pregnant. What do you do? If you took things slowly, this would not have happened. This isn’t some lecture on safe sex; it’s about timing things when it is right, and when you consider the consequences of your actions. (Or at least acknowledge the possibility of those consequences given your current or proposed situation).

Relationships, the happy ones, are always exciting in the beginning. But as with anything in the natural world, try not to rush things. Sure you only live once, but at least live one that’s worth it, not ones that are full of regrets because ‘you took every chance’. Give relationships and the people in it the chance to grow and blossom into the beautiful thing it’s supposed to be. If you take things too fast you might just lose her; if that’s the case then you’d better learn techniques on how to get an ex back – it’s gonna be messy.

In our next blog post, we will investigate more on love compatibility and how to find your true soul mate.

Today I am going to share with you a real life application of the Swing Method.

People have different kinds of personalities and we also need to deal with them differently while considering our own personality as well. When it comes to dating, the same principle applies.

When you are dating a shy girl, go for activities that will suit her – like meditation!

Guys should master this art of dating if they want to conquer the heart of a woman that they love. Ironically of all the types of personalities, it is the shy type that is often the most difficult kind to deal with, especially in dating. However, once a guy learns how to deal with a shy type of girl in dating, it would then be easier to successfully break her from the shell and get to know her more. I’ve already covered this at length previously here.

Dating A Shy Girl – What You Need To Know

If you are a lover boy who is desperately trying to date and please a shy woman, then you are on the right place. Read on and discover how shy girls think, what they like, and how they should be dealt with. Discover their world and become a total master psyche of this kind of personality.

• First of all, you have to know the reason why the girl is shy as well as the characteristic of her shyness. Is she only shy when she’s around you? Is she shy to most guys and can easily open up when she’s with girls? Or is she shy to people that she just newly met and would gradually open up when she gets to be more acquainted? It can be very challenging to observe the nature of her shyness. The more mysterious she is, the more challenging it can be on your part.

• Secondly, bear in mind that this type of girls might probably be unwilling to enter relationships unless they are given an unusually strong guarantee of uncritical acceptance. Consequently, they often have no close friends or confidants. The easiest way to provide an uncritical acceptance is to express an accepting attitude toward the girl’s fears, especially the fear of rejection. You might also want to accept the fact that your date might not be willing to have a relationship with you. In that case, just take it slow and start as a good friend while you get to know her more. This will assure her that your intentions are good and that you don’t intend to hurt her.

Advantages of Dating Someone Shy

The good thing about most shy girls is that they are not as demanding, irritable, or unpredictable as the other types of girls. They express their emotion in an obvious way and they can be simply attractive in that way so express to her how attracted you are with her personality. When you go out together, make her feel that you are very proud to be with her. This will help stow away her shyness especially when in public.

To learn about some advanced techniques on how to do this and specifically on how to meet women, go to http://fractionationseduction.net/how-to-meet-women/

Ask her what she likes or wants and don’t just assume things on your own. For example, if you want to hold her hands, don’t be so aggressive in doing it or she might push you away. Instead, ask her if she’s comfortable with you holding her hands or touching her shoulders as a gesture of being a gentleman. However, sometimes, you might not need a verbal agreement. You will just know it by the way she reacts. As previously mentioned, shy types usually express in an obvious way, just don’t be aggressive. To maintain posture, try brainwave entrainment programs as outlined here.

When you finally master this personality, you can formulate strategies to date her in a way that makes you comfortable with each other’s company. In my next blog post, I am going to share with you what these strategies are.

God bless,

Joseph

Today we have a contribution from my good friend Shirley Koo (you can reach her by emailing shirley.kay@hotmail.com) – she has got a good perspective on dating and seduction – and it’s useful to get views from the fairer sex. She will be sharing with us some “instant pickup” tips on how to seduce a woman you’ve just met. For more articles about dating from a woman’s perspective, check this out (opens up in a new window).

Swing Pickup – Dating A Girl You’ve Just Met

Hello everyone, Shirley here.

It’s often awkward to date someone you just knew for about half a day or so. A lot of people would never expect a happy relationship out of it. When you meet someone for the first time in your life, there goes that fear of being kidnapped or robbed because of the thought that you don’t know any other thing about that person except his name and probably his age. But in life, we always meet new people. Some would stay for a while and some come and go. It can be risky to date a person you just met. But if you take the risk, who knows you might be having the best love story ever told.

Surprisingly, a few people were successful in their relationship even if they just initially knew each other in a bar or within a crowded place. There is just a very little chance that one would like someone instantly at first meet up. Love at first sight as they call it. A lot of people believe in it. But a lot others don’t.

Trusting Your Dating Instincts

So how do you know if it’s a good idea to date that person? How do you know that he or she is not messing around with you? The answer is that nobody actually knows. Some who are in a happy relationship and started as total strangers maybe just took the risk and made a big leap of faith. So maybe you just have to trust your natural instincts.

However, if you don’t trust your instincts but you really want to get along with that person, you just have to look for cues– cues that will help you decide if that person is worth dating.

Using Conversational Seduction Techniques

First of all, it’s good to date a person who is very conversational. Not just someone who blows up any kind of conversation but someone who provokes intellectual arousal within you. If his talking does not make any sense at all, then that would already be a red flag. See these blog posts here and here for more information on this.

Next, observe if that person listens to you while you’re talking. Make sure he or she listens to you and not just hears you. If the person makes suggestions or opinions out of the topic that you just introduced, it means he or she is listening very well. Then you should give credit by listening to the person’s point of view as well. Indeed, listening is the beginning of understanding. People who misunderstand each other would most likely end up arguing with each other all the time. Of course, it’s healthy to argue sometimes. However, if it comes to a point when your argument doesn’t make sense anymore, then it can already be pathological—another red flag for that.

That intellectual conversation would surely give you a clue as to whether or not you want to date that person further. After a seemingly long conversation, you may end up exchanging your phone numbers or planning to meet another time. When you’ve reached that state, then you might want to ask her to be your girlfriend – read this following article for more tips on how to do this -

http://fractionationseduction.net/how-to-get-a-girlfriend

So will you then call that person? Or will you wait for him or her to call? If your date calls you, then congratulations, you are in for the next level of a new relationship. If not, the person might just be waiting for you to call. It’s actually the next difficult thing that you will encounter and a pretty good subject for another dating article. Watch this space!

Check out the previous parts of the Swing Methods of Seduction – Part I and Part II.

It is a known fact that, on average, men would rather have women approach them and try to grab their attention than work at approaching women the right way themselves. Sadly, this isn’t how things work in the world. Fortunately, though, there is this nifty thing called hypnosis that is guaranteed to get a woman to like a guy without fail every single time. Keep reading to learn four helpful tips on how to effectively hypnotize women into loving you.

• Tip Number One: Create a long-lasting connection.

When creating a connection with a woman, you have to make sure that your connection goes far beyond the kind of superficiality that these connections are usually made of. Women prefer being with men who aren’t selfish and who put a woman’s needs above their own every time. So, if you show her that you are one of these men, you can practically guarantee that you will be able to keep her by your side for a long time to come.

• Tip Number Two: Get on her nerves.

You might not believe this, but confronting a woman isn’t always a bad thing, most of all if you are able to do it without making her angry. Women happen to find conflicts and challenges very stimulating, so you can actually boost her sexual desires to brand new heights if you use this method properly.

• Tip Number Three: Be a bad boy.

Psychology states that women are more attracted to men that they aren’t sure they can have than to men that they can get in a heartbeat. This is why women seem to be so drawn to roguish and confident men nowadays. If a woman thinks a man isn’t interested in her, her curiosity automatically piques and she instantly wants to find out more about him.

• Tip Number Four: Use fractionation.

Although all of the aforementioned tips make use of hypnosis in one way or another, this method is the best kind of hypnosis out there. True masters of seduction actually use fractionation to hypnotize women into loving them with ease. This also provides deep insights into how to flirt with girls and make them like you quickly

In a nutshell, fractionation sends women on a roller coaster ride of emotions. These emotional levels that soar high and dip low so unexpectedly make women anchor themselves to the man and this eventually turns into an intense psychological connection that makes them want to jump into bed with him in just 15 minutes. After all, what is love when you can satisfy your lust?

Ideally, the two-step version of this method should be used for the best results. Step one involves you conjuring up happy moments with a woman, either through regular conversation or through a certain phrase. Step two involves you conjuring up sad moments with a woman, but this time much faster than the earlier step.

One of the phrases that you could use to make the transition would be “I have a lot of sad experiences myself. Do any sad experiences of yours come to mind?” By making a woman experience both emotions in succession, you can get her to turn you into her stimulus and you can then start taking full advantage of this whenever you want to.

In the next part of the series, I will explore further on the female psyche and how you can exploit a “loophole” to make a girl like you.

I have received so many emails from readers of SwingStatus.com on my previous blog post that I felt compelled to write a follow-up blog post. But before anything I’d like to point out that many of the techniques and tactics that I outline here are taken from sites like http://www.fractionationseduction.net and http://fastseduction.com. So, do yourself a favor; go to those sites and start reading. When you’re done reading, get out there and practice what you learned.

The Swing Method of Seduction is actually quite simple. It centers around the thinking that in order to be good with women, a guy has got to be congruent with his inner self first. A major part of self-reinvention is through deep meditation (I recommend using brainwave entrainment techniques for this). Pickup lines and other seduction gimmickry is irrelevant largely because if delivered without congruence they are close to useless.

My favorite relationship guru E. Jean (from the esteemed Elle magazine) summed this up pretty nicely -

http://www.elle.com/life-love/ask-e-jean/ask-e-jean-man-looking-for-the-perfect-girl

Go and read that article; I’ll wait here.

How To Appear Attractive To Women

Forget about appearance even though that’s important. Focus on how to use “conversational seduction” techniques to seduce women into falling in love with you. With the right techniques on how to seduce a woman with words you will be able to attain tremendous success with women in as little time as possible. Learning how to build rapport is one of the most important things that you will ever learn as a seducer. Believe it.

Skills of rapport building can take shape in any of these forms -

1. Knowing when to start, and when to stop
2. Learning how to run “multiple conversational threads” so that you do not run out of things to say
3. Body language or non-verbal communications
4. Congruency and believability
5. Managing group conversations; how to come out on top

After you have mastered conversational skills (if you need more help, search on Google for Colin Simone’s best work), then you have got to move on to personal grooming. Don’t believe any seduction guru who tells you that looks are not important. If you’re fat, go to the gym and start sweating. Fat people are never attractive in the eyes of women. I heard that even Fat Joe had difficulty getting laid. I am not at all surprised.

Looking good is essential to seduction. And another key component that will make or break your success in love and dating is body language. Experts estimate that as much as 70% of communications are non-verbal. Do not come across as needy and insecure. Practice in front of a mirror. Observe the body language of expert persuaders. Watch James Bond movies and notice how he moves and carries himself.

When you are out in the field approaching women, get a wingman to observe you from afar. Better still, ask him to take a video of you picking up women. Then, during the wingman debriefing session, watch the videos together and give honest feedback. With this method, you will be able to be better at dating in no time at all.