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Hi guys!  Joseph Cohen here. 

I have just received an email from reader Tom Graham who asked:  “Joseph I am about to meet her parents at a dinner in her home.  I’ve seen the movie “Meet The Parents”  and I am absolutely terified something may go wrong.  Do you have any tips for ensuring that my first meeting with her parents goes well?”

Hello Tom! Nothing to be “terrified” about really.  A bit of common sense, preparation and a positive attitude is all it takes.  But to help you further, I have dedicated this entire post to giving you a few tips.

There comes a time in every serious dating relationship when you have to go out and meet the parents. And more often than not, especially when you’ve been together for quite some time, people are going to expect a proposal and/or a wedding soon after. In a way, people see this ‘meet the parents’ stint as an informal and subtle way of telling them that everything about you and the relationship is serious.

But however serious your relationship is, how ready you are to meet the parents, and whatever reason you have for meeting them finally, there is one thing that you can’t possibly change: you have to impress her parents.

As a man, though, there is an unspoken sometimes unseen competition between you and her Dad. And that’s what makes him more difficult to impress. So before you go on your planned getaway with her family next weekend, you had better be armed and ready with ideas on how to impress her dad and win him over.

Here are 5 fool-proof ways to impress her old man:

Bring him his favorite booze. Unless he’s trying to live clean, more likely than not he has a go-to booze. And the only way to find that out is to ask your girlfriend. And if, surprisingly, she does not know the answer, pressure her into asking her mother. If her mother learns that you are actually making an effort to make a good impression on her husband, and that you are somehow going out of your way to make him happy, you score good points with her . If he is actually living clean and staying off of alcohol for whatever reason, bring him his favorite dessert (yes, even if you have to drive for hours to get it).

Be confident but not to the point of being arrogant. This is where most men fail. They want to seem and sound and feel confident to their girlfriends’ dads that they exaggerate on the confidence level and come off as arrogant. And that’s what draws the last straw for them – potential fathers-in-law hate arrogant men for their daughters so be very careful. Be that humble, meek guy who talks and who is just so packed with potential awe-inspiring qualities that will blow him away.

Listen to what he has to say – tall tales and all. Always listen to his stories, show interest and believe them. Never mind if he told you he killed seven reindeer on his last hunting trip or that he had 45 girlfriends before settling down with your girlfriend’s mom. Your first encounter is not the time to argue with him or compete with him. Just. Not.

Show him something you’re good at. If you get the chance, show him your talents. Play the piano for him, cook him your signature steak, show him your mechanic or technician skills and show him that you can run a household like a man and that his daughter won’t have anything to worry about should you guys get married.

Help his wife cook or with some household chore. Win his wife over to your side. Click here for the recommended PUADatabase.com guide on talking to girls. And so if the future mum-in-law puts in a good word or two for you for your awesome steaks, or for fixing that leak in the kitchen, or for being generally a nice young lad, chances are he’s going to take her word for it. After all, his wife has great taste and he’s proof of it!

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Hey guys!  I am Joseph Cohen and I have a question for you: Are you a possessive boyfriend?

Jealousy is not only a normal part of any relationship; I believe it is actually essential. After all, you feel commitment and belongingness  when your partner just does not feel good about the idea of sharing you or losing you to someone else. But there is a fine line that divides normal, healthy jealousy from the possessive, suffocating, unhealthy, relationship-fatal kind. Just follow these simple rules to obey for friends with benefits.

The former, apparently, is the kind of occasional, oftentimes cute kind of jealousy that makes your girlfriend want to pamper you more, makes her feel flattered about the fact that you don’t want to share her with anyone else, and the kind that is reasonable. The other one, on the other hand, is just baseless, illogical, exaggerated and maybe even violent type of jealousy –  the ones that often lead to a breakup.

Signs that you’re overly possessive

Wanna find out if you’re the normal jealous or the exaggerated kind?  Read on for signs that you’re a possessive boyfriend:

You freak out over any other human being who tries to talk to her, ask her to hangout, or just get near her. Man you have a serious problem. Okay, so it may be understandable if you get jealous if boys ask her out, but to freak out about her BFF’s, verify with her mom if indeed it was her who asked your girlfriend out, or just plainly go all out on holding her in public when some sales guy talks to her in some shop are so not normal and are the epitome of possessive.

If you never want her to go out without you.  While being called ‘inseparable’ as a couple can be cute, it can also be very disconcerting if you pressure her to take you everywhere she goes except maybe the ladies room.  That’s really a great way of showing her that you want to own her. Uh-huh.

You call her at least once every 30 minutes. This is sweet but only after so long. But to have to do it even after several months of dating, checking up on her worse than your mom did on you at your first summer camp is just not fun at all. It makes her feel like a kid and makes you the tyrant.  Come to think of it, even guards don’t check on jail inmates that often!

If you have to know everything. This is one of the biggest indicators of being a possessive control-freak boyfriend. It can only mean that you cannot bear the thought of mystery because your mind goes on auto-pilot and takes you to doom scenario land. And so you have to resort to having to know everything about her including every single thing that goes on during her bathroom break.  Unfortunately it also signals clearly that you don’t trust her!

You brand her as ‘yours’ in every possible way. Whether it’s making her wear a non-wedding ring, wear a locket that has your picture in it, changing her phone background into your photo, or going as far as forcing her to have your face tattooed on her arm, you just want the world to know that she’s taken (by you, nonetheless) so boys will stay away from her.

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I hate to tell you this, but if you are guilty of any one of these actions, then you are a certified, over-the-top possessive boyfriend. And you’d have to check with your girlfriend how she feels about you right now.  You may want to do a personal assessment to see what you need to improve to enjoy better relationships with women.

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The Common Denominator

November 25, 2013 — Leave a comment

Have you been jumping from one relationship to another?

Is your dating life nothing more than a few good dates and the women either disappear or just end up with someone else, and you are left alone in your miserable single life?

Have you been recycling exes one after another, just to keep the bed warm or at least just to stand next to you in social functions?

Do you feel like you’ve been cursed into solitude for the rest of your life? How do you break this seeming ‘curse’ to your love life? How do you break your string of bad relationships?

Tips for better relationship

Here are some of tips to improve your dating life and get better chances at finding a more lasting relationship:

Change your social circle. Maybe you’ve been looking for women in the wrong places. Constantly picking up women in bars and clubs, or hanging out in strip clubs, or dating women who are looking only for one-night stands won’t lead to a lasting relationship. You’re lucky if relationships with these types of women last for more than five dates, but really, there’s hardly anything significant to expect. So change your social circle, find a different place to meet women, go for places where conversations are allowed and personalities – not looks – shine.

Change the way you approach women. Maybe you seem too fast, too aggressive, or too shallow. Maybe you need to let the good side of your personality shine through in the way you approach women. If you’re funny, then be funny! If you’re geeky, give her a lesson or two about the internet or Star Wars. What truly matters about getting a lasting, significant relationship in its early stages is that you give her something to look forward to about you. Give her a reason to make her listen to you.

Break your bad habits. If you’re a notorious player, I don’t see a reason why you would be in a lasting relationship. If you have a habit of beating your girlfriends, flirting around casually or whatever other bad habits you possess, not getting into a good relationship is practically normal and hardly surprising. So check yourself inwardly – have you been doing things that drive away great women from your life?

Stay single for a bit longer, and don’t make any conscious effort to find someone to date. It may be a little difficult to stay single after all your effort at trying to get in a relationship, but the truth is, you might not really need it. Or at least not really need it just yet. So why not use this time to actually get to know yourself better, enjoy the single life more, and maybe prepare yourself better emotionally for a future relationship. Call this stage your ‘relationship purging’.

And here’s a big tip: how to get her phone number (good tips here at SIBG.com)

There is no curse, probably just a series of bad choices and bad habits. Change some of these things just to see how much better it changes your chances in the dating arena. Good luck!

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Hey man, this is Joseph Cohen once more.  In this post I want to answer a query posed by my good friend Robert: “Joseph, how can I get my girlfriend to listen to what I have to say?”

I told Robert that there is no easy answer to that question.  If I had a penny for everytime a man tells me how difficult their girlfriends are, I’d be a rich man.  For the benefit of all of you my readers, this post contains everything I told Robert.

Women can be very annoyingly stubborn. Part of the blame can be laid on their innate motherly hormones, which makes them somehow want to take control of everything and treat everyone else like their children. A woman I know says her boyfriend asks her to listen to what he has to say at least three times a day, and calls her stubborn about twice as often.

Make her listen to you

So how do you make your woman listen to you? How do you invoke the wifely gene in her, instead of the maternal instinct? Is there a way for you to actually make your woman see your credibility?  Actually, and quite surprisingly, the answer to all these questions is – yes you can. Here are some tips:

Be more decisive. If you ask her to decide things 9 out of 10 times, chances are, she won’t believe you have the ability to decide even that one time. By giving her most of the deciding power in the relationship you have relinquished your right to decide. So man up and quit the ‘whatever you want darling’ thing if you still want her to believe that you’ve got things under control. Don’t be surprised if she might Gives You the Cold Shoulder then.

Be more assertive about what you want and what you don’t want but don’t forget where the borders are between assertion and disrespect. Assertion is seen on many levels; when you’re certain about what you want, when your voice says that you are actually certain about what you want (uhm, uhm, uhm – that’s not really certain), and when you stand by what you want. And your girl has got to see exactly this: that her boyfriend is strong physically, mentally and in every other aspect!

Stop calling her stubborn. Calling her stubborn, arguing with her about why she should and shouldn’t follow you, and making a fight out of it is useless. Don’t call her names, it will make her want to defy you even more. (PS: maybe you can try a little reverse psychology on her instead?) Here’s a list of Things You Should Not Say To Your Woman.

Let your actions speak louder than your words. So you argued about whether or not canola is a better and healthier oil than extra virgin olive. Or that opening the can with a can opener is more efficient than using a knife – blah blah blah. In all these arguments, always, always make sure that your actions are even more assertive than your words. In the wise words of the man who taught me to write, “don’t just tell ‘em, show ‘em!” Makes sense doesn’t it? Or says these good and funny pickup lines you must know to her.

Don’t raise your voice. The calmer you are, the more impact your words have. All the best speakers in the history of public speaking know that there is more to effective speaking than the volume of your voice. Sometimes, silence can relay more than spoken words. So whenever you have to talk with your girlfriend about anything – especially anything that you know will spark an argument or invite resistance, keep your voice low. That can make all the difference.

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Good day readers!

After my last blog post, today’s post will focus on the best thing to do when she’s giving you the cold shoulder.

So she doesn’t respond to your cuddles. She looks away when you try to kiss her. She hardly texts you back, gives you nothing but single word responses at most, and grunts and other incoherent sounds at other times.

Why is she giving you the cold shoulder?

There’s no doubt about it – she’s giving you the cold shoulder.

A lot of women do this – not saying anything but letting their body language speak to you. It comes from being called “nags” too often; they reach a point where they feel like they’ve said enough and there’s nothing left to say. So they let their thoughts and feelings come out through body language.

It may seem like a breather and a better option than nagging but every man knows that the cold shoulder is so much harder to deal with and it could be much more serious.

What do you do when she gives you the cold shoulder? How do you get her to talk to you about what’s bothering her? How do you not make things worse (this is the hardest part but try to read this Sonic Seduction blog article)?

What is the best thing to do?

Here are some tips:

Before saying anything, try to figure out why she’s mad at you. Is it that time of the month? If it is, consider yourself lucky. If not, keep thinking. Check the calendar. Is today supposed to be a special day? Did you just miss her birthday or your anniversary? Check your memo – were you supposed to go somewhere or do something and totally forgot about it? Go about the last 24 hours and try to recall everything you’ve said and done – in person, in text, on the phone, on email, and possibly every way you could have done/said it – that might have ticked her off.

Be a sweet little puppy, not a rabid dog. Do not confront her with accusations when you try to let her speak out on what’s making her angry. Instead, be a sweet little puppy, with sad droopy eyes, all cuddly and sad because she is giving the cold shoulder. It might break down her walls, make her speak out and then after that try ways to be sexy.

Don’t push too hard. The thing about girls is that they always need to be ready before they do anything. And when they aren’t, there is hardly anything in the world that can make them do things they feel unprepared for. SO if she says she’s not ready to talk about it, hold your patience much longer and wait until she’s ready to speak out. She will when she can. [11] This may be the hardest part – the waiting – but if you want to resolve things like a good lover, you have to endure it.

Listen before you react. It would be wise to let her speak all of her thoughts out before saying what you think. You’d be in a better position to appease her if you become the sensitive, sweet guy who listens over the guy who starts a fight. Again, mister, patience is key.

When a woman is giving you the cold shoulder, the very first thing to do is be patient. Don’t counter her anger with anger, and you’ll see how much better things will be. This technique works with practically every female and not just your ladylove. So the next time your boss is being a total b_tch, try this out and be amazed. *Wink*

Want to know why? See it here by Mayhemmagazine.

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Howdy readers.  Joseph Cohen here trying to make sense of dating patterns in your 20s and 30s.

When it comes to dating, your 20s and your 30s make up for the most significant formative years. These two decades are the time of trying to experience everything and making life-changing decisions for later in your life.

But what really differs when you’re dating in your 20s and in your 30s? Whether you’re in your 30s and are trying to look back at the past decade, or you are in your 20s and are trying to get a heads up on what to expect in the coming ten years of your dating life, here’s a comparative look at the difference between dating in your 20s and dating in your 30s.

Dating in Your 20s

In your 20s, you try to explore everything related to adulthood. You are getting your first taste of being a grown up and you try to socialize as best and as much as you can. Physically, you tend to accessorize more. Your dating attempts are more careless, experimental, and spontaneous at times. You try to date and bed every girl you meet, and your ego matters more than anything else. And you make the most out of being independent and in full control of your life.

When you’re dating in your 20s, your focus is on excitement and experimentation in relationships. This is the age when you’re most attractive to the so-called cougars too. At this age, the rule on dating is to have fun, fun, fun. And so you look for girls and dates for exactly that same reason.

These are the formative years of your dating and adult life and this is when you find the experiences and the people that make you decide to settle down in marriage or to keep having fun as a single man.

Dating in Your 30s

Did you know that women feel most beautiful at 32?

Around this time in your life, you find yourself slowly losing appetite for wild dates. You realize that going out on clubs every single night to meet girls is not good for your love life and your gall bladder. And you realize that the crowd is becoming younger – so young you don’t understand their language anymore. You ideally would be more focused on your career path in your 30s.

When it comes to meeting women, you may be less appealing to cougars but the younger ladies may seem too young for you that you find it hard to meet halfway. More often than not, women your age are either married, divorced or single with children. This may be a challenge and online dating may be a more lucrative option.

Your attitudes towards women and dating may also have changed at this point, thanks to peer pressure from friends who are getting married and having kids.

Conclusion

Life changes us. We become who we are from everything we experience and everyone we meet. Your dating life in your 20s may not exactly tell how the rest of your dating life will end up. Whatever your age, here are universal tips on being a good flirt with women. Enjoy every experience though; you’re only in your 20s ad 30s for so long! Good luck!

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To most men, being the male version of Plain Jane is enough. As long as there is a shirt on his back, some decent clean-looking pants to go with it, comfortable undies underneath that, and some shoes that could get you by for a few more years, he’s okay.

Of course you think you’re okay, but you might not be good enough to wow a girl.

When it comes to dating, women always love men who try to step up their game in every possible way.  Sure they know how to appreciate the effort, but they do know how to value great results. And this is especially true when it comes to looks. There are ‘manssentials‘ which are the things you NEED, and then there are accessories which you don’t need per se but can be good for you.

Women don’t really need you to go out all fancy and dapper a la Rob Kardashian. But it really wouldn’t hurt if you made an effort to look great, especially when you’re going out on a date.

Accessories and Men

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Match your accessories to the occasion. If it is not cold, then don’t wear scarves.

To the Average Joe kinda’ guy, accessories are unnecessary and should be reserved for models and rappers. Most men could get away with wearing nothing fancier than a good ol’ classic looking watch. But there’s more to men’s accessories than just a watch!

Some popular accessories for men include:

* Bracelets
* Necklaces
* Ear studs
* Scarves
* Hats and caps
* Vests
* Belts
* Shades
* Purse, Pouch, Clutch, Bag

As it is with women, the biggest challenge to the non-savvy person when it comes to fashion and accessorizing is to mix and match them. You seriously do not want to look like some guy straight out of a freak show when meeting a girl for a date.

So to make your transition into becoming a more fashionable guy smoother and easier, here are some tips:

Keep it at a minimum. SIBG covered this last week. Do not overdo it. If you’re unsure about mixing and matching your accessories, wear at least one or two pieces at most. Say, shades and a scarf with your trench coat? Or one piece of bracelet at a time to go with your watch?

Don’t wear contrasting leather. Do not wear your black leather watch with a brown leather belt on some blue leather shoes. You’re not gunning for the Mr Rainbow look!

Decide on what look you want to achieve. Do you want to channel your inner Marshall Mathers? Go for your white sneaks, semi-wide pants and your hoodie. A single ear stud will definitely complete the look. Going for a Ryan Gosling? By all means take out your shiny leather loafers and get all other leather goods to math plus one or two gold or silver bracelets.

Match it with the occasion. Who wears their gold necklaces to the beach anyway? If you’re not Mike Tyson, then no – you cannot wear your gold chain necklace to the beach. Wear a buri fedora and some wood bead bracelets instead! Read this if you need more pointers on how to dress for specific occasions.

You need to be comfortable with the accessories you wear. If your accessories do not make you comfortable, don’t push it. You’ll never enjoy the night worrying about what your date thinks about your all-football fan ensemble!

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If your accessories do not make you comfortable, don’t push it.

Hey people!  Have you ever wondered whether exes can remain friends?

To say that “exes can be friends” can spark a debate that can be just as impassioned as anything that Democrats and Republicans experience a regular basis. So can exes really be friends?

Whether she cheated on you or you cheated on her, yes, you can be friends; but should you be friends? Under what circumstances can you say you can never really let the incident go and totally forget about the thought of each other’s existence? What do friends mean? Do you hang out with each other? Or is being mutually civil pass up as being ‘friends’? They say ‘time heals all wounds’, but how long would it take? And under what circumstances?

Hard Work

See, there are tons and tons of things to talk about when it comes to exes being friends. And while I can never fully answer those questions for you, I can only tell you this: there certainly is a lot of work to do if you are looking towards a platonic, non-dysfunctional and more socially acceptable relationship with your past love.

Here are some ways that you, dear men, can win your exes back not as lovers but as friends:

Do not rush it. This is what most men just cannot quite get. Which part of ‘do not rush’ is hardest to understand? Sure, there are certain scenarios where boyfriends and girlfriends somehow realize they are not for each other and they break up today, they are friends tomorrow. But sadly, this is not the case for most people. You’d have to wait ‘til she feels she’s ready to look at you without either getting mad or crying.

Do not expect too much. She was hurt. She was mad. Or maybe she still is, even when she can look at you in the face and be totally civil with you. She will not welcome you with a hug or say thanks to you (except when she has fully realized how much better her life is when you guys broke up) and she may not even tell you that naughty thought in her mind that you used to know at one glance. Dude, things have changed. And remember, if there are reasons why you should be friends with your ex, there are also reasons why you shouldn’t be friends.

Respect her boundaries. And since you are not to expect anything from her, you should also be able to respect where she places herself in this so-called renewed friendship with you. If she does not want to go out with you, even for “old times’ sake”, do not easily assume that is because she still has feelings for you. She just does not like your face all that much anymore, and I wish I was really just kidding about that.

Do not talk about feelings, your new girlfriend, or the past. Out of respect, out of good humor and well wishes for a better future, and out of logic and etiquette, these things are not recommended topics for conversation when you’re trying to be friends with your former ladylove. [11] And don’t think you can get away with a simple subtle joke about her dating life or the new guy in her life.

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Hello dear readers!

It’s funny how so much can happen in 24 hours! I received a couple of emails in connection with my post about cheating yesterday. There was one particular mail, a hate mail hahaha, that said I should man up and write about women who cheat. Women can cheat as well as men – I have to concede that he has a point. So here you go brotha! Chill.

So how do you find out if your girlfriend is cheating on you? Are there any signs you should watch out for? It’s fairly easy, to be honest. All you have to do is pay more attention to the little details. Basically, if your girlfriend is cheating on you, she will try to cover her tracks as well as possible. So, if your girlfriend seems a bit sneaky, then you can be sure that something is up.

Aside from that, if your girlfriend seems to be making noticeable differences in her daily habits, then she is probably cheating on you. In this case, things that she used to do on a regular basis might suddenly change  without apparent good reason.

But don’t worry guys, your bruised ego will get over this. I stumbled upon this article on dating which should help you cope easily. Lol

The Main Signs of Cheating

Girls who cheat will usually want to meet their secret lovers as many times as they can, so they end up completely disregarding any previous engagements that they might have planned, see SonicSeduction.net website now http://sonicseduction.net/.

If your girl freaks out over the most basic of questions, then you should become suspicious, too. In fact, you should be suspicious of anybody who refuses to answer basic questions, in general. Of course, there might be a reason behind the mystery, such as a surprise party. However, if your girl normally never does things like that, then you should be really wary. Be suspicious if she only answers your questions after repeating them or if she pauses before answering you, as well. This might mean that she is trying to come up with a believable excuse in her head. Generally speaking, when a girl starts to get defensive or hesitates to answer a basic question posed by her significant other, it indicates that she may have something to hide.

Another time when you should be on your guard is if your girl suddenly starts talking about an old colleague or acquaintance, but doesn’t seem to share any specific details about them or is purposely vague about the situation in general. This would hold especially true if she is extra evasive and tries her best to keep the friendship under wraps and refuses to introduce you.

If you usually have no problem communicating with your girl, but every little sentiment that you express seems to set her off and make her lash out of late, then you should be on your guard, as well. When your girl starts to pick fights over every little inconsequential thing, alarms should go off in your head right away.

Another common thing that girls tend to do when they’re cheating is to nag a lot. Nagging seems to help them ease their guilt. So, if your girl habitually starts to pinpoint all of your flaws, you might want to try and figure out what’s up.

Believe it or not, shopping might be a telltale sign of cheating, too. If your girl vanishes for hours on end, just to come back with a ton of shopping bags, she might not have been shopping at all; she might have just been busy with somebody else. Think about it.

Basically, the signs are the same. Although women, in my humble opinion, are less likely to hide their true emotions; It makes it easier for men that way. But remember guys, there are reasons why women cheat. Try to find out whether you had something to do with it.

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