Hi guys! Joseph Cohen here.
I have just received an email from reader Tom Graham who asked: “Joseph I am about to meet her parents at a dinner in her home. I’ve seen the movie “Meet The Parents” and I am absolutely terified something may go wrong. Do you have any tips for ensuring that my first meeting with her parents goes well?”
Hello Tom! Nothing to be “terrified” about really. A bit of common sense, preparation and a positive attitude is all it takes. But to help you further, I have dedicated this entire post to giving you a few tips.
There comes a time in every serious dating relationship when you have to go out and meet the parents. And more often than not, especially when you’ve been together for quite some time, people are going to expect a proposal and/or a wedding soon after. In a way, people see this ‘meet the parents’ stint as an informal and subtle way of telling them that everything about you and the relationship is serious.
But however serious your relationship is, how ready you are to meet the parents, and whatever reason you have for meeting them finally, there is one thing that you can’t possibly change: you have to impress her parents.
As a man, though, there is an unspoken sometimes unseen competition between you and her Dad. And that’s what makes him more difficult to impress. So before you go on your planned getaway with her family next weekend, you had better be armed and ready with ideas on how to impress her dad and win him over.
Here are 5 fool-proof ways to impress her old man:
Bring him his favorite booze. Unless he’s trying to live clean, more likely than not he has a go-to booze. And the only way to find that out is to ask your girlfriend. And if, surprisingly, she does not know the answer, pressure her into asking her mother. If her mother learns that you are actually making an effort to make a good impression on her husband, and that you are somehow going out of your way to make him happy, you score good points with her . If he is actually living clean and staying off of alcohol for whatever reason, bring him his favorite dessert (yes, even if you have to drive for hours to get it).
Be confident but not to the point of being arrogant. This is where most men fail. They want to seem and sound and feel confident to their girlfriends’ dads that they exaggerate on the confidence level and come off as arrogant. And that’s what draws the last straw for them – potential fathers-in-law hate arrogant men for their daughters so be very careful. Be that humble, meek guy who talks and who is just so packed with potential awe-inspiring qualities that will blow him away.
Listen to what he has to say – tall tales and all. Always listen to his stories, show interest and believe them. Never mind if he told you he killed seven reindeer on his last hunting trip or that he had 45 girlfriends before settling down with your girlfriend’s mom. Your first encounter is not the time to argue with him or compete with him. Just. Not.
Show him something you’re good at. If you get the chance, show him your talents. Play the piano for him, cook him your signature steak, show him your mechanic or technician skills and show him that you can run a household like a man and that his daughter won’t have anything to worry about should you guys get married.
Help his wife cook or with some household chore. Win his wife over to your side. Click here for the recommended PUADatabase.com guide on talking to girls. And so if the future mum-in-law puts in a good word or two for you for your awesome steaks, or for fixing that leak in the kitchen, or for being generally a nice young lad, chances are he’s going to take her word for it. After all, his wife has great taste and he’s proof of it!